Friday, July 12, 2013

Six Weeks to Always

My parents, taken at I believe my sister's wedding in 1978.

My parents, together. on the sofa, sometime in the 70s.



It broke all the rules.

It wasn't supposed to work if you did it this way.

But somehow it did.  For well over fifty years.  And if my mother was still alive, it would be 61 years today.

Prom season 1952.  My Dad, the young school teacher, was going to have to be a chaperon at the school dance.  His friends, the Niners, thought he shouldn't have to go alone.  So they enticed a friend of theirs to keep him company at this dance.  In order to win her over, they told her that he looked like Gregory Peck. So Peggy Marie Martin, 20 years old met Eugene Everett Strait, 30.  They were married six weeks later.

My mother was already engaged, to a boy who was in the navy and stationed in Korea.  It didn't matter.  I can't say whether the boy was a good person or bad person.  All I can say he wasn't the right person, at least for my mother.

They were married on July 12, 1952.  This was only six weeks after their blind date. In theory, that was impulsive and should not have worked.  In practice, it worked for always.

No marriage is perfect.  Character quirks and compromises and moments of discord exist.  But genuine love and caring abide and endure.

My mother left this plane on October 19, 2008.  So it would seem that the marriage lasted 56 years, 3 months and 7 days.  But that is only what it seems.  I'm afraid my father would disagree with you.

For him, today, they have been married 61 years.

He is still in love with the girl he met at the prom.

He closes his eyes, and he is holding her, in his arms, on the sofa.  He is at a dance, Here in My Heart playing.

He is in love.

Six weeks and always.


UPDATE:  On September 22, 2013, my father rejoined my mother.  For always.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Isolation's Stony Palace

When you have decided you are through
There is nothing I can do
When you just want to make me feel small
I am ready for the fall

Bistro by the sea
Cavalierly I'm unknee
Tavern on the lake
There I am forsake

Where no more you glance my way
There is nothing I can say
Where your smile no longer shines
I brace for mighty whines

Jungle near the gym
I he indeed are not him
Woodsy owl in his reign
I am in so much fracking pain

What is better left unsaid
Fills me up with dread
What lies beneath your contempt
I choke into verklempt

Stony palace on the mountain top
I surrender I stop
Bouncy castle at the edge of nowhere
Nothing left but an empty stare

Who has left me for another
Alone without Big Brother
Who collides across the sky
Leaving me in trail of sigh

Leafy forest past the outer rink
Loneliness it doth stink
Snowy globe shakes off the crews
Nothing left but to sing the blues

How did it come to this horrific shun
I cancel my mind from all that's fun
How do I go on and on with no crack
And never ever ever ever look back




Summertime in Theater World

Don't miss Flying Dragon's great second Broadway Revue coming the first two weekends in August!

Come join us and be entertained by some of your favorite numbers from "The Little Mermaid", "Grease," and "Beauty & the Beast" Show Times: Saturday, August 10th - 7:00 PM; Sunday, August 11th - 3:00 PM; Saturday, August 17th - 7:00 PM; & Sunday, August 18th - 3:00 PM Tickets - $5
Ruby Tuesday of Waycross will be hosting a community give back event for Flying Dragon Arts Center. We will be handing out flyers for this fundraiser. Show your flyer, when you pay your bill, and 20% of your total will be given back to the theater. This is a great way to support us, while also enjoying delicious food!


We are once again teaming up with RJ's Grill of Waycross, to bring you delicious barbeque. We will be taking orders for BBQ plates ($10), Boston butts ($20), & slabs of ribs ($20), from July 12th through July 21st. The deliciousness will be ready for pick-up on July 27th.


The above are just some of the events coming up at Flying Dragon on Tebeau Street.  They will also soon announce their new season and I will announce it on The Strait Line as soon as it is made public.  I can tell you that it will have a great storybook theme, and it will feature well known plays and works/adaptions by local writers.

WACT will be doing Dracula as their next show, in early October, but casting will probably be going on fairly soon, and I will share that when I find it out.









Bacon County Theater will be putting Bye Bye Birdie starting this weekend, and will feature the talents of Blake Kildow as Conrad Birdie.  They have a poster which I could not locate this morning, but I will add to this post as soon as I locate it.  UPDATE:  Now with poster!

If anyone knows of additional theater doings you would like me to share, please let me know and I will add it to this post.

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Ripping Good Yarns: Final Voting Basic Cable Series

We're ready for the final voting!

Had to make some tough decisions from among a number of popular nominees.  I tried to strike a balance between different types of shows.  .

Please vote for one of the following:

The Walking Dead

If you're not watching this show, you are missing one of the best character driven dramas that has ever been on television.  It's hard to watch this show and not get sucked into their lives.  Alison and I like it so much that we watch the talk show Talking Dead that comes on after that..

Bates Motel

Surprising support for this well done little series.  It would seem like not a very promising premise for long term durability, and you kinda know how it's gonna turn out in the long run, but the series is doing a hell of a good job getting there.  Both Vara Farmiga as Mother and Freddy Highmore as Norman are excellent, and it sis fascinating to watch their characters evolve. Alison and I both enjoy this series.

Psych

Toss up as to whether or not to put this in the comedy category  but your votes helped me determine where to put it.  Closest thing on TV to a Bob Hope/Bing Crosby road picture.  Gus and Shawn are hilarious, and the interactions between the cast are infectiously fun, and makes you feel like they're part of the family. By far the best thing to come out of the USA factory of programs.  Alison, Benjamin and I are faithful viewers of this show.

The Killing

Moody and scenic, this is not the fastest pace on television. But it is intricate and character driven, and as its center two of Seattle's best cops, Holder and Linden, probably the best TV investigative pairing since Mulder and Scully.  A show you have to be patient with, but well worth letting it dwell and roll in your mind.  I watch this show, having caught it via streaming.  REally a great show to watch an episode or so a night over a couple of weeks.

Switched at Birth

This does not have Lindsay Lohan. It features two teen girls who were accidentally switched at birth, one into a rich family and the other into a significantly poorer household.  This show gets fairly good critical review, and I think is a pretty good balance to our list of final nominations.  I have never seen this ABC Family show.

So there you have it, folks!  Our five finalists!  I would love to keep voting open long enough to at least get a dozen or more votes.  That would be really swell. 

There's a good chance that some of you won't have seen any of these shows, or very little of them.  But if at this point you just want to take a stab at the Pinata and pick which show you think sounds the best - I am OK with that.  WE NEED THE VOTES!

Vote now!  On here or on facebook!

I await your judgement!

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Apocalyptical Two Stepping

Are things getting better or worse?

Many generations have faced their mortality with apocalyptic thinking.  My own world is coming to an end, so therefore the whole world must be coming to an end.  Every generation has its prophets of doom, predicting the demise of the world, or the world as we know it.

The turn of the millennium was fraught with this kind of thinking.  I'm talking, of course, of 1000 A.D. Many at that time predicted the destruction of Revelations and the second coming.  Didn't really pan out.

More recently, the 1830s had an inexplicable rise in apocalyptic thinking, with groups like the Seventh Day Adventists.  It was also at this time that the doctrine of the rapture developed, the idea that a subset of people (Jehovah Witnesses had advocated that it would be 144,000, but that may not be true now - hey, people change!) would be taken straight to heaven while the rest face the horrors of  Satan's reign.

In our times, there are still cults that predict our imminent end, including going off to bunkers to commit suicide.  Every few years, someone is brave enough or crazy enough to set a date.  And then when that date passes to busily recalculate to see where they went wrong.

Y2K, the Mayan calender, red heifers - all these warnings and dates pass us by.  Meanwhile, as always, life improves in some ways and slips back in others.

But something special is happening now.  We're no longer dependent on biblical prophecy or mortality fears to drive us towards concerns of Armageddon.  We are now more than capable of really taking ourselves out, without the involvement of a wrathful deity, nor a stray meteorite. We now have the nuclear capacity to blow up the world many times over, and we live with that threat, either on purpose or by accident, every single day.

And, although it may not end all life, our world is being completely changed by climate change.  All the plagues inflicted on Egypt during Exodus are going to seem like child's play compared to what we are inflicting on ourselves.

If anyone has been paying attention it seems like the rhetoric regarding climate change has gone from 1) we've got to stop this while we can, to 2) it's not too late to at least mitigate the damage from this, to finally 3) hang on, everybody! It's going to be a bumpy ride!

This jeopardizes all the considerable progress the world has made in human rights, in lifting people out of poverty, of creating a more spiritual, caring world. The coming resource wars are going to make previous wars look like toddler fits.

But maybe we'll be lucky and bright.  Maybe it's not too late for the mitigation route. I'm trying hard not to play the Apocalyptic Two-Step.

One thing, even if we check what's happening, is pretty clear.

Be prepared for the possibility of visiting your grandchildren on Baffin Island.  Bring sunscreen.

Monday, July 8, 2013

Fourth by the Lake and Other Monday Musings

Rev. Kit and many of our church children at our Fourth of July Weekend ice cream social.


It was a housebound Fourth of July, and after recent weekends on the go, it was kind of a relief and relaxing.  We've been home pretty munch from Wednesday afternoon until this morning, with only excursions to pick up Real BBQ on Wednesday night, pick up propane on Friday, and church/groceries on Sunday. There were no movies out, nor any dining in restaurants.  It was my most extended stay in the house since we bought it in February.

The good news is that I kind of like our home and neighborhood.  It feels very comfortable, and exudes a strong sense of rightness, that we are where we are supposed to be.

Mowing the yard on Thursday was time consuming and unpleasant.  But I got-er-done and it does give me some time to think.  Benjamin got more training in mowing, and did about 5% of the yard.  So maybe someday that will be a task I can pass off to him.

Thursday night there were fireworks down by the lake.  They were not that spectacular, but they were very easy to get to, and it was fun to sit at the lake with your neighbors and watch.  I tried to take some pictures, but I have not posted any here, because they failed to meet even my low standards.

Even the recorded movies I tried to watch were not very good, so it was a real bust movie wise this weekend.  We watched John Carter, and were grateful that we had not paid to see it at the movie theater  I tried to watch two others, The Revenant and the Total Recall remake, and wound up falling asleep in swaths of both.  We did stream some episodes of The Office, and they were hilarious.  It is a show that we are trying to see from beginning to end, and are currently in the third season.  Alison is very anxious for Pam and Jim to get together, and I tell her she needs to be really, really patient.

I tried to deal with the pain of having my ads yanked away from my blog by writing more.  I did, but also was a bit overwhelmed by how long it might be before I might have something ebook ready, and by how how much might be involved to format the ebook into an acceptable submission.

My next break from work is probably Labor Day.  Even Fridays become more problematic as more time is taken over by an audit we do in the summers.  But at least I do I have this home to look forward to coming back to.  And that's something.

Until next time,

T. M. Strait

Saturday, July 6, 2013

Office in the Round

The center of town was Crowley Circle.  The buildings around it were set more like a rectangle. But the road around the rectangle was definitely a circle, a roundabout leading to different parking areas.  It was designed in the early twentieth century by Albert Crowley, after too many trips to Europe.

Much of Crowley's small professional community was set around this circle.  Andy Caldwell's State Farm Bureau was here.  Next to it was Cooper and Strickland, Attorneys at Law.  Next to that was Graves & Robinson, CPA PC. Next to that was the chiropractor, Doc Walter Stratton.  On the corner was the Honey Dew, the local diner.  Across the street were City Hall, and the Court House, sitting in the oldest building in Crowley, predating even the circle.  At four stories it was the tallest building in Crowley, covered in red brick that had been put in place over 125 years ago, oversized windows that had ghostly apparitions according to Cokie Goodkind and his band of paranormal investigators. Next to City Hall were the City Police and the County Sheriff's office, who share facilities.  Some argued for a combined department, but the political turf wars had prevented that so far.

Rondy Strickland parked his metallic blue Ford F-150 and clambered out.  Why an in town dweller with a white collar profession needed such a large gas-guzzling pick-em-up truck was unclear, but it was not an uncommon phenomenon in Crowley. Tall, muscular and athletic, Rondy had a face and sincere smile that made women swoon.  Probably too many women.  Rondy was divorced, and played a wide field.

Rondy saw Gariton Hollander get out of his Prius and head towards the CPA firm he worked for.  Gariton was small, no more the five foot eight, and had kinda weird hobbies, like theatre and reading.  "Hey, Gariton!  'Nother day, 'nother dollar, eh?"  Gariton nodded and moved on to his office at Graves and Robinson.  Rondy shrugged and continued to the door of Cooper and Strickland.

"Morning, sunshine!"  chippered Rondy, as he entered and saw Ramona Adams sitting at her desk up front.  Ramona was the firm's legal assistant, secretary and receptionist.  She was studying at OTC (Okefenokee Technical College) in Waycross to be a paralegal.  She didn't realize that Thomas Cooper, the lead lawyer and true firm head, had no intention of paying her more even if she passed.  Thomas Cooper had a fixed idea how much women in the office should make and he was never going to go past that line.  The fact that she was African American probably didn't help, but Mr. Cooper's true problem was that she was a woman.

Crowley's African American population was fairly small, no more than about 15% of city residents were black, and there were only a handful out in the county.  Most of those who achieved academically did not stay, as the numbers of jobs for educated African Americans were few and far between, as most small businesses simply didn't hire them.  And if they did, it was only for the more menial jobs.  The job Ramona had at Cooper & Strickland was a minor exception.  The work load was a challenge, and she did get to do some interesting stuff on occasion, but the pay and power was only going to rise so far.  Thomas Cooper did respect her and treated her well for the most part, but his prejudice was really more towards his conception of what women's role in the work place was.

Ramona's husband, Jackie Adams, had one of the best jobs held by an African American in Crowley.  He was vice-principal at the Reagan Middle School, in charge of discipline and facility maintenance.  There was hardly a person in Dixon County who thought that that Jackie was not excellent at his job.

"Morning, Mr. Strickland," answered Ramona.  Rondy had wanted her to use his first name in referring to him, but Ramona was not going to go down that path. Rondy was king of the flirts and if you gave him an inch, he would take a mile.  She tried to keep her opinion of herself grounded, but she knew she was pretty good looking, and Rondy always looked at her with wolfish eyes.  Besides, Mr. Cooper had never indicated any desire for her to call him anything but Mr. Cooper, and she felt no reason to address the lawyers differently.

Thomas Cooper came out of his office.  He was a distinguished looking gentleman, thick white hair, and a medium build, dressed in a sharp, cool blue suit; he had expressive, kind eyes that had melted a hundred juries.  Mr. Cooper mostly took cases that defended Crowley's elite, but once in awhile he would take on cases helping the disadvantaged, and it was then he would truly shine. 

"Rondy, I got Sheriff Steel coming in 'bout an hour from now.  He'll have Edna and Dabs Denison with him, and I'll want you to sit in on it," said Thomas.

"What's going on, Thomas?  Isn't Dabs that kind of loopy vet?  Did he do something crazy?" asked Rondy, who had no real interest in anything except the town elite, or the town's beautiful women.

"I don't know, Rondy.  I have not talked to them yet.  Alan Steel wants me to talk to them, I'm going to do it.  I don't need to know much more.  You sit in on it with me, and we'll see where we can help." Thomas turned to Ramona.  "If they bring their boys in with them, I want you to help them get entertained in the second conference room.  Maybe we still got those crayola books."

Ramona nodded, but she really wanted to be in on that meeting.  It was very intriguing that Sheriff Steel would be bringing somebody in.  It could be something beyond the usual divorce or property dispute.  Ramona wanted not just to be paralegal, but a full fledged lawyer.  It would be a long and hard journey, but she had the support of the person she cared most about, her husband Jackie.

The phone rang and it was Betty Cooper, calling to speak with Rondy.  They had been "dating" for a couple of months now, and would frequently call or come up to see Rondy.  Betty was Thomas Cooper's daughter, a sweet girl, short and blonde and sometimes giggly.  Thomas wasn't very excited about his daughter dating Rondy, but he wasn't the type to tell his twenty-three year old daughter what to do or not to do.  In his experience, it was always better when they could figure out things for themselves.

"Excuse me, I'll take this in my office," said Rondy.  I'll bet you will, thought Ramona. 

"Buzz me the minute they come in, Ramona," said Thomas, retreating back to his office.

A few minutes later the door opened again.  It was Christie Delco Hollander, the drop dead gorgeous daughter of Daddy Delco, furniture store tycoon.  She was also inexplicably married to Gariton Hollander.  Ramona thinks they met at school up north somewhere.  Christie had a perfect face, long auburn hair, Nordic blue eyes, and a dancer's body. 

"Hello, Ramona!" said a high spirited Christie.  "I come by to town to drop off Gariton some of my sweet cake and I thought, well, Rondy's right here.  Why not chat him up for a minute!  I want to get his help in the big Christmas Oyster Roast, raise some money for the Crowley Rec Center."

Ramona looked down at the phone, and saw that Rondy was still on the line with Betty.  She looked up at Christie and saw her distractedly biting her lip, looking unexpectedly anxious.  It only took a millisecond for Ramona to make up her mind.  "Sure, Mrs. Hollander, go right on back. Rondy is free as a bird, and I'm sure he'd just love to..." Ramona paused here ever so slightly.  "...chat things up with you.'

"Thank you kindly, Miss Ramona!' Christie went to open Rondy's door. "You just ever have the nicest day!"

The door closed.  Seconds later, the phone call with Betty was dumped.

Ramona smirked.  It looked like another dog day for Rondy.  Woof.